Tips for a healthier and more attractive speaking voice

What should your voice sound like when you are trying to make an impression on people, for example as a sales person? Are there any vocal characteristics you need to get after, and others you should avoid? Will your voice at the end of the day attract customers or scare them away?

Even though I'm not a professional salesperson or a sales trainer (some would testify that I cannot sell bread at a bakery), I do know this:

You are not drawn to a hoarse voice, or a tense/forced voice. Or a voice that's so breathy you can barely hear it.

In other words: if you want people to buy from you, they need to listen to you, and like what they hear. And that's where I come in.

As someone who's "just a voice teacher" I needed to educate myself on the topic of sales, so I gathered all the different traits you want in your voice to make it attractive for - how do you call them? - prospects.  

You need... 

• some resonance in your sound, with a variety of qualities
• some confidence in your sound
• most of all - you need ease in your sound

So let's get started, I'll teach you how to get all above traits: Resonance, confidence and ease with practical exercises to achieve them. Prepare yourself to become even more awesome a salesperson than you already are.

How to master your tone in sales

In short, what you need in order to get control over your voice, is to start using it in a new way, but not only "practice" it, but incorporate it into your daily life.

If I give you an exercise, you can of course try it out of context. But then! Keep in mind wherever you go. When you talk to potential clients/buyers or when you are on your phone with your partner. As often as you can. That's how you will build new habits, healthier habits, with your voice. 

The 3 main vocal traits for an attractive voice

You will find all sorts of advice on how to use your voice in sales. But it all boils down to three main things: Resonance, confidence and ease. Here they are in bullet point, we'll go deeper into how they work and how to achieve them bellow. 

1. Resonance: Resonance can be referred to as the quality/tone of your voice. There are a couple of ways to go about shaping what your voice will sound like: affecting the spaces inside your vocal instrument and controlling the air in your voice.
2. Confidence: How do you deliver a single phrase or paragraph while talking to someone? Do you hesitate, or do you have a healthy sound/air flow supporting your voice?
3. Ease: This is the health and freedom of your sound. If you have vocal issues, hoarseness, fatigue, weakness, breathiness, or on the other hand a shouty, aggressive, strained voice -  that's not a luring, reassuring voice and definitely not a sustainable one. 

Resonance

OK, so we should control the level of resonance and play with our tone of voice, but how?

Two ways to control and change your vocal resonance

1) Through the resonance spaces themselves: we have spaces inside our skull and throat where our sound waves can move and vibrate. Here's a cool illustration of them:

When you pay attention to your resonance spaces, you can maximise the richness of your voice. In this article about open throat I show you how to start developing the awareness of your vocal resonances. 

(It's about singing with an open throat, but first the first tutorial teaches you how to actually open it, through kinaesthetic awareness)

2) Through air management: when you use more air in your voice, you can soften its quality and lower its volume. Using less air will give you a fuller, louder sound.

This sounds counterintuitive, but it's true! Imagine using a ton of air in your voice - that's whispering, right? So, little air in your voice will get you more volume. More air - less volume.

Confidence

To have confidence the most basic thing you want to keep in mind is the non-stop principle. I use al kinds of creative, fun exercises to improve people’s performance on stage. Because at the end of the day a good performance is about confidence. So is the performance of your speaking voice when you are with a prospect.

When you talk to someone in order to persuade them - it’s a performance.

If you want it to be a good performance you need the non-stop principle. In a nutshell, this means, start and then don’t hesitate or pause. Just like a singer would never stop mid-song and declare: let's try that again - so you go through your phrases with conviction that you know what you are talking about, and you don't hesitate, stop, or slow down. That doesn't mean you can't make errors, we all do! But it's about owning these, not letting these errors getting in the way of a performance.

But what about verbal pausing?

Yeah, I know. I've heard this term while learning how to sell on YouTube, too (maybe I'll be able to sell that bread at that bakery after all this research lol). If you want to use verbal pausing - meaning you intentionally wait a bit before continuing to talk - here's how to do it:

Do it all intentionally, and know what's coming after your pause. You don't just stop talking and wait. That's when people lose you. You take that break in anticipation of what you are going to say next. That will still maintain your non-stop principle! Because in your mind, and therefore in the listener's mind, there's something coming. There's a continuation. And your confidence is intact.

Vocal ease

Achieving ease in the voice is not only important to make your listener/potential customer feel at ease, but also for your own vocal longevity. If you use your voice wrong, you’ll only be able to do that for so long, before loss of voice, vocal injuries and even surgery happens. 

Your voice is on the inside. It’s inside your body, not outside. To get more volume, presence, or comfort, or anything done with your voice, you should always point your attention inwards.

Instead, unfortunately, most people think outwards in order to “project” the sound, and be more present and audible. Then they use extra air and muscle to do that. 

Instead of thinking about projecting the voice, to get the result you want, think about where you voice is made. Inside your body. Direct the voice (or vibrations if you will) inwards, through your mouth/nose to the back of the head then down all the way through the chest to the bottom of your ribs. This will be a cue fro your brain to relax the unnecessary muscles that are trying to "help" in manufacturing the voice with effort. 

You will get more sound (because you focus on your resonances) with less effort (because there's less resistance). Win-win, if you ask me. 

I recommend doing these exercises every day before any interaction. They should take no longer than 5 minutes. Even a busy person like you can afford that! 

And feature those principles into the way you talk, as often as possible. You have a lot of moments of talking today, I’m sure, so that’s your practice 🙂

Enjoy speaking and expressing yourself, and let me know how it goes,

Linor